Dolce Far Niente #3: Will I Continue Blogging?

Hey loves,
Today is an update on how my life has been and I’ll be talking about some things that have been on my mind, lately. One of those things is about blogging, as you can tell by the title.

So let’s talk about life in general. Life has been okay. Not particularly great though. I’ve been in a rut for quite some time due to stress and anxiety. My anxiety has been particularly bad the last few months. I have skipped university quite occasionally and I’ve been trying to change that in the last two weeks, with success, but it’s still very hard to combat the feelings and thoughts in my head. Anxiety is so weird. I love going to class and I love the subject of the classes, but something inside of me withholds me to leave my home. I’ve also been having thoughts that I haven’t had in a few years and my situation is starting to affect other people and their lives. Therefore, I’m thinking of revisiting a psychologist to work on the anxiousness again. In the past, therapy has helped to reduce the anxiety massively and I think it isn’t a bad thing to go back when it resurfaces. Talking to somebody who doesn’t have a clue about who you are and has a somewhat objective view is different compared to talking to the people that are close to you. People that you talk to on a daily basis tend to give you advice, which isn’t a bad thing, but giving advice doesn’t usually change someone’s perspective or attitude. I want to take small steps and delve deeper as to why I’m feeling anxious again and a psychologist is trained to do so. I would like to know if any of you have ever experienced this overwhelming sense of anxiety and what you do to combat it? So yeah, that’s the anxiety update, haha.

Let’s talk a bit about blogging now. Blogging has been a hobby of mine since last year. Unfortunately, I have hit rock bottom. I still love writing but the happiness I get from writing and postings reviews/looks/other posts has disappeared. And with that, also my motivation. I do think it’s because of my mental issues that there is a lack of passion lately. However, I also think that the blogging community has a role in it. I follow some really talented people on WordPress and also Instagram and you cannot help but compare yourself and your abilities. This comparing has made me feel really bad for the last few weeks whenever I wanted to write or post something.ย  Hence why I haven’t been posting much the last two months, haha. It’s also about my appearance and not only my writing abilities. That’s why I’ve decided to start uploading close-ups exclusively on Instagram and WordPress.ย  I won’t be showing my face anymore for a while until I feel comfortable again. In the meantime, I will work on the quality of my makeup looks because I haven’t been content with them. I want to work on lightening, sharpness and overall quality of the picture. That’s also an example of the pressure that is put on you by Instagram or blogging. Every detail has to be perfect and the way other people want it. It has to have a vibe, a coherence, an aesthetic and I don’t want to be immaculate anymore.

The amount of people that read my blog or like looks on Instagram has also dropped quite a bit. It’s not something that I particularly mind but it does make me doubt the content I write/post. I’ve been wondering if it isn’t interesting or good anymore. The blogging community has me feeling that people just scroll over your post instead of reading it. It also seems as if they give it a like and a superficial comment just to spread the existence of their blog. I’m not trying to offend anyone but that’s just the feeling I’ve been having recently. Of course, the problem could be that my content isn’t well enough and I would very much like to know how I can improve it. So yeah, please let me know ๐Ÿ™‚ . I would also like to address that I do read almost every post of the people that I follow (unless I haven’t been on WordPress for a few days) and I want to comment so many wonderful things but yet again, I’m too anxious to do so. So, that’s my opinion.

This lack of support and companionship in the community made me think that I would like to change my approach to other bloggers a bit. I want to be more supportive by commenting more often and telling you how much I appreciate your existence. However, this will take some time and a lot of courage, so please be patient and know that I love what I read. I also hope that people kind of understand what I mean and I hope a change will come soon. Because I have to be honest with you that if this atmosphere stays, then I’m not sure if I will continue blogging. It will become a task rather than something that’s enjoyable and that’s not a healthy approach.

Thank you all so much for reading this little Dolce Far Niente Update, if you read it ๐Ÿ˜‰ . I’m eternally grateful for all of you and the friends I’ve made through this platform. I’m an introvert, no denying that, but this place gives me happiness and comfort.
Thank you all and see you next time!

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Belgian girl who is 20 years young and has discovered a passion for blogging a few years ago. I love to write reviews on various items of makeup and skincare, ranging from affordable to high-end. I also love making looks on Instagram!

9 thoughts on “Dolce Far Niente #3: Will I Continue Blogging?

  1. I have anxiety, something Iโ€™ve just learned about that has really helped me, itโ€™s called the Five by Five. Basically, if you start worrying or feel really anxious about a situation – donโ€™t spend five minutes on it if it wonโ€™t matter in 5 years. Keeping that in mind has really helped me lately and I find myself overthinking less and feeling a little less stressed. I donโ€™t know if it would help, but itโ€™s worth a try โ˜บ๏ธ Iโ€™ve never seen a psychologist but Iโ€™m sure it would do no harm.
    I agree with blogging that it has gotten more superficial, people more skimming than reading, etc etc. Iโ€™ve been really uninspired with blogging as much as I love it I just feel like Iโ€™d be better off making videos or something, just a change of pace. Blogging has become more of a task than a passion, kind of like you said. But I donโ€™t think itโ€™s your content, I always love your posts. And I always appreciate your existence! You are a really lovely person and I am very happy we have meet through blogging! โ˜บ๏ธโค๏ธ

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    1. I’ve never heard of that method before and it sounds pretty good to calm anxiety. I’ve actually already tried it a few times and I found that my anxiety decreases drastically because you realise that you shouldn’t be stressed and it’s not that problematic ๐Ÿ™‚
      I’m glad to know that I’m not the only one that feels uninspired and I would love to see you create videos! Change can be terrifying in my opinion but it’s usually a change for the better and ends up making you happier. I want to thank you for your kind words about my blog and my content. It means so much to me, you cannot imagine how much, haha. You’re also lovely and I’m excited to see which direction you will take! ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  2. I applaud you for opening up in this way, it’s not easy! I have anxiety too and understand exactly how your feeling, but we both know with some help and time you’ll start to feel better. I also agree that the blogging community can be superficial, but also really supportive. As far as IG, ugh, that’s my least favorite platform. Growing an audience seems impossible and I’ve been getting far fewer likes recently too!

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    1. Thank you! I want to be open about this issue because it’s much more common than we think, I guess. A lot of people that I know struggle with this kind of problem and I think talking about it helps. The blogging community is indeed also supportive! I absolutely adore some of the people that I’ve met through WordPress and Instagram. I hope things will turn around when it comes to engagement and likes. It can be a bit discouraging! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Thank you for being honest and open about all this. although i donโ€™t suffer with anxiety myself, a few people close to me do and Iโ€™m aware of how hard it is to open up about mental health.

    I totally relate to the comparison thing though. Iโ€™ve always wanted to show products on my face in my blog/take more selfies for my insta and blog but i am really struggling with how i view myself and comparing it other peopleโ€™s talent and their looks being far more pretty than me. Iโ€™m worried people judge me for how i look and my makeup skills. I hope one day i can be over it but Iโ€™ve had issues with low self esteem and comparison since i was about 11 years old.

    Iโ€™ve always loved your blog and Iโ€™ve definitely purchased some products due to your reviews. Iโ€™m always here if you need anyone to talk to or bounce blog ideas off of โ˜บ๏ธ

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    1. You’re very welcome. I think it’s a good thing to be open about this kind of phobia. I feel like a lot of people don’t take it seriously and it gets laughed away very often. I hope the people close to you are well and I wish them all the best!

      I really hate the comparison thing, haha. I would love to see your face more to show how the products work but I definitely understand why you struggle with it. It’s probably the same reason why I’ve chosen to not do it anymore, at least for a while. I think you are very beautiful, cute and I absolutely love your makeup skills. You’re amazing at reviewing products and I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts. I also absolutely love your blog and I’ve purchased some of my favourite products because of you. Thank you so much very your kindness, you’re the sweetest! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. I have the same problem with blogging at the moment. I do have some scheduled posts which helps to have new content, but I haven’t actually write a blog post in few weeks. My motivation is not on point as it used to be, because I don’t get a lot of views which definitely makes you question quality of content and do you put enough energy into making a blog post. I used to have motivation, so views didn’t really matter, but now I don’t really want to waste my energy on something most people won’t read at all. Google search is the only thing that is getting me views actually, because wordpress reader is so low, I don’t get 10 views daily from worpress which is so strange because it used to be the best for views. I do also agree on blogging community, I spoke about that issue a lot on my blog, it is not getting better unfortunately. Take your time lovely, have rest and focus on your health and your happiness. I love reading your blog and watching yt videos, I have to admit that you are doing it so well, that’s why you are my favorite blogger from wordpress. I will always show my support every way I can possibly do it. xoxo

    Sorry for super long comment, I’m kinda frustrated with blogging community same as you are hah.

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    1. I totally understand your frustration. It’s been very hard to post lately and feel happy about it. I hope you realise that you’re my favourite blogger on WordPress as well. You’ve been nothing but kind and supportive and I appreciate you so much for that. If it helps at all, I’ve been loving your content lately. The amount of products I have bought from Essence and Catrice because of your reviews is insane, hahaha. I hope our motivation for blogging will come back soon, I really don’t want to stop writing on my blog or stop reading your posts. I also hope that people will become more engaged and more enthusiastic about bloggers. I hope they’ll start reading blogs again and that the views will go up again.

      I’ll take some time off on Instagram but I will try to become more enthusiastic about blogging again. So, I will post on my blog but occasionally. Gradually building it up until I feel better. I will also try to show you how much I love reading your posts and your blog. I want to be more supportive! Xxx

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  5. Thank you so much for being honest with us! Sorry that you’ve been struggling with anxiety and stress recently thats so horrible for you. I’ve had the exact same thing happen where the amount of people reading my posts has dropped and I’ve started to doubt my content. I’m a massive fan of your blog and have been since I first discovered it. Your content is always interesting and very helpful for my make up purchases โค xx

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